(COMIC) Cage and Fist in “The Friend Zone”
Ladies; there are a good number of your single (or not so single) male friends who want more than friendship with you. For whatever reason, they cannot or will not tell you how they feel and are waiting, like sharks, for the right moment to strike. Or maybe they are waiting for you to come to them. There seems to be two types of women in this situation: the ones who know that you want her and she’s stringing you along, pretending not to notice, OR she’s so clueless and naïve that she doesn’t know what’s going on and really thinks you’re just friends. In either case, ladies, stop doing it. Be straight with the men in your life and speak plainly as possibly because they will appreciate it – - if not now, definitely in the long run, and so will you.
To the fellas: I used to be one of those guys who waits around for a chick, hopeful she would come my way, and it is extremely frustrating and a good way to build up resentment.
The fact is that she’s not into you. Move on. She’s either your buddy or she’s the girl you want and you have to be honest with her and tell her how you feel. I don’t like using terms like “alpha male” and “beta male”, but in this case, it is appropriate – - it’s a weak, “beta male” move to hide your feelings because you are afraid of getting hurt or losing her friendship. It’s a risk you have to take, and as a guy, it’s something we have to deal with. Trust me in that I have gone through this many times in the past before accepting the fact that girls have “Choosing Power” in relationships and guys just have to deal. Man up, tell her how you feel, put the ball in her court (so to speak), and walk away. If it’s meant to be, she’ll let you know. If not, find someone else and stop hanging around her. There are tons of cool girls out there.
And for the love of God, stop pretending to be her friend, especially when she is already in a relationship. If she cheats on/leaves her boyfriend for you, how do you think she is going to treat you while in your relationship with her? Seriously.
Can men and women actually be just friends? Yes, but it requires both parties have the character to be honest with each other, and the strength to walk away from a friendship.
Stop all with all the sneaky shit.